Men, Women and the Big “C”
I’ve always found it funny how men and women communicate differently. There are exceptions, but communication is a common issue. And honestly, I can’t help but wonder to what extent does one truly understand the other?
After many experiences and conversations about communication barriers between men and women, some made complete sense, and others were actually mind-boggling but explained a lot! But what stood out the most is how men and women listen and hear differently.
For starters…body language. Yes, this is crucial! A woman’s nod is not the same as a man’s nod. So, make sure, both are on the same page (don’t assume). Guys, have you ever had a long conversation with your girl? Heck, or maybe just a short convo (lol)! I bet she nodded to everything you said. Meaning she listened to each word that came out of your mouth and probably understood it just as you explained. Now ladies… that dude, he'll nod, acknowledging he’s listening but may have a completely different understanding… or he may nod simply to make himself seem more present than he actually is.
Men are problem solvers…whether it’s warranted or not! I have had countless conversations with males and sometimes, instead of taking in what I said, the majority wanted to resolve the problem right away. But the thing is, I wasn’t always looking for a resolution. Sometimes I just wanted to talk and let it all out. The strength in wanting to help a situation is not a terrible thing, it just needs to be placed accordingly. I personally think many men can’t fully comprehend this because they weren’t/aren’t raised to express themselves, as women are. For example, an old love of mine would consider the act of expressing himself to be “emotionally weird”… lol can you imagine?!
Women, on the other hand, will listen and provide comfort according to how you’ve expressed yourself during that moment. The comfort offered may be a shoulder, drink, tissues or follow-up questions to help you release and to help them understand more. But as soooooon as she sees you’ve gathered yourself… here comes the problem-solving… “okay sis, what’s next? What do you need me to do?!”
Figure it out by bridging the gap…
It’s important to remember that everyone is unique in their ways! There is no one-size-fits-all approach to communication, so this may not relate to you but if it does… know it’s not just you!! Practice strengthening your communication skills by:
Active Listening: Focus on what the person is saying and their body language, rather than just waiting to speak.
Say “I”: Use "I" statements to express your own feelings and needs.
Pay Attention: Be mindful of your body language.
Clarification: Don’t assume, ask.
Chat soon!
xoJR
